The Excellent Wife: A Flourish Fall Bible Study
Friday, September 14, 2017 : Week #2
Part 1: A Wife’s Understanding of God – God’s Protective Authority
When you picture God, when you think of God, what comes to mind? What is your perception of Him?
Look up Romans 9:19-21 and write it here:
Understanding your proper position as a creature serving the Creator is foundational to clearing up any misperceptions you may have about God and His protective authority over you.
In what ways do you feel your husband does or does not protect you physically, emotionally and spiritually? Think about these three areas of your life and try to dissect each one, answering from your honest opinion.
The problem we as women face often comes from a faulty image of who we think God is based on our past experiences from other men. If there has ever been a man, be it a relative, a past relationship, or coworker, etc. who has mistreated you, belittled you, abused you, taken advantage of you or disrespected you, you may struggle with seeing God as a God who longs to protect you. You may see Him with the same eyes that you see that man who did NOTHNG to protect your heart. Oh friend, God is nothing like that person who has hurt you. You no longer have to associate the Lord with him. You can find healing from your wounds. You can trust in your God to not only take care of you, but to go above and beyond in proving His love for you. Because while we were still sinners, He died for us. He loved you and I that much to take himself to the cross. You must ask the Holy Spirit to show you who He is. You must ask Him to invade your misconceptions and pull them out of your mind to replace them with the beautiful truth that your God is a God who fights for you, who defends you, who protects you with all of His power and strength. A God who delights in doing so.
Stop a moment and spend some time in prayer laying down the hurt and misconceptions from your past at the feet of Jesus. Search your heart to see if there is anything from your past or even your present that has or could potentially keep you from seeing the Lord as a God who longs to protect that heart of yours. Write them down. Write down the names, if any, of those who have failed to protect your heart, and surrender them to the Lord. Rip up that paper as a declaration to the Lord that you’re letting go of the bitterness, the hurt, the pain of not being protected. You ARE protected in the name of Jesus! He is your protector and girl, you must know above all else that you ARE worth protecting, but…
Have you ever felt not worth protecting?
Has the enemy ever fed you this lie? “Search me Oh God…” (Psalms 139:23) Do you have somewhere deep down in the depths of your heart that has soaked this in as truth? Your confidence displays it. Your wall resounds it. Your defensive attitude lets other know that you must protect yourself, because no one else seems to want to do it for you, right? Is this what you’ve believed? Is this often the way you live? I can’t even begin to unpack the times I’ve grown defensive because of this very lie.
What about in your marriage? Have you gone so long without being fought for by your husband that you’re beginning to feel like you’re truly not worth being fought for? Are you on the brink of giving up? In your marriage? In your pursuit of Jesus?
You need to know something, friend. You need to know what the Lord has to say about this. You need to spend some time with Him, getting to know the REAL Him.
Look up these verses and write them down below slowly, speaking out loud these words over and over to your heart. Regardless of where you find yourself, a lie from the enemy will tell you at some point that not only are you not WORTH fighting for, but that NO ONE is not fighting for you. SUCH A LIE. Let’s combat this lie with truth straight out of God’s Word.
Exodus 14:14 – _________________________________________________________________________
Deuteronomy 20:4 -_____________________________________________________________________________________
2 Chronicles 20:17 – _____________________________________________________________________________________
Deuteronomy 3:22 – _____________________________________________________________________________________
Isaiah 40:31 – _____________________________________________________________________________________
Oh daughter of Jesus, know this. HE FIGHTS FOR YOU. He is your beautiful protection and everywhere your pretty feet step, He is overshadowing you, covering you, fighting for you, protecting you.
I want you to stop after having taken in these powerful truths from His Word on who He is and I want you to youtube the song “Out of Hiding” by Steffany Gretzinger. Put your phone down. Put your pen down. Turn the tv off. I want it quiet. And I want you to close your eyes and hear Him singing over you the words of this powerful song. This is who He is. This is what He’s done. And you my sweet sister…are safe in His arms. Spend some time afterwards writing about what you just heard and answer these questions…google the lyrics if you need them by your side as you do some heart digging today.
What do these words tell us about GOD? What can we find from these words that tell us about who He is, about what kind of God He is, about what kind of character He has?
What do these words say about ME? What do these words tell me about who I am because of who HE is for me?
Sweet daughter of Jesus, you are protected.
Part 2: A Wife’s Understanding of Sin – God’s Provision
When I was a little girl, my mom asked me if I wanted to ask Jesus into my heart. Long story made short, what little girl would say no to a question like that? I was so young and so curious about this Jesus, and so I repeated the words my mom spoke over me, I was told to call my family and share with them the good news, and next thing I knew, I was getting baptized. Don’t get me wrong, I have a handful of friends who knew exactly what they were doing when they asked Jesus into their heart at age 7, but unfortunately, I really didn’t understand at that age just what Jesus had done for me, why I even needed to give my life to Him. I didn’t understand my sin and it wasn’t until I was at the age of 17 that God made it so clear to me that I didn’t truly know Him. I grew up in church. I led Sunday school. I helped in our student ministry. I was at church every time the doors were open. And…
I was completely lost.
I grew up clinging to a prayer I said when I was just a girl. If someone were to ask me if I was saved, the first words to come out of my mouth were “Yes, because I said that prayer. Because I was baptized.” I couldn’t tell them what the Lord was really doing in my life at that moment, because there was no relationship. Just a false sense of security from some words I mindlessly repeated as a young girl. At 17, Jesus knocked on my heart. In fact, His words about knocked me down. “Ashleigh”, I heard Him so clearly speak out in my mind, “You don’t know me. I want you to know me.”
The rest is history. It was then that I truly gave my everything to Him. My past. My present. My future. It was then that I realized everyone, including me, truly does fall short of His glory (Romans 3:23) and that if I didn’t have His righteous and Holy blood covering my evil sin, that I would, no questions asked, spend eternity separated from Him in a place I was never intended for. A place called Hell. A place that is so real, ladies. We love spending time thinking about the comforts of Heaven after this temporary life, but we don’t like going in our minds to thinking about the other place that exists as well. Oh, but friends, you must. You must know that you know that you know without any doubt in your minds that you have called on His name, that you have put your heart and soul into His hands, that you believe that He came to this earth, died for the sin that you are guilty of, that he rose again and lives today, that He is coming again one day SOON. (For more on just how close we are to His return, visit this link).
In order to step into our calling as an excellent wife, you must first know that you are His daughter. In this portion of your homework, I want you to spend some time writing out your testimony. I have listed some questions to help guide you along the way. This is crucial, friend, to excelling in our marriages. How can we be all who God is calling us to be if we are not His, if we don’t truly know our testimony, if we can’t explain the day that He CALLED us to be HIS?
What’s your story?
When did you ask the Lord to save you? ___________________________________________________
If you and I sat down today over coffee and I asked you “If you died today, why should God let you into heaven?” what would you say to me? __________________________________________________
Ya know, I was a good person growing up. I knew the Bible. I was in church every time the doors were open. I was kind. I was giving. I knew all about Jesus, but I didn’t KNOW Jesus personally. I was all of those things, and yet, I was still lost. Being a good person, teaching Sunday school…that doesn’t get me into heaven and had I died before 17, I would have gone to hell. My answers to the Lord of being good enough to spend eternity with Him in Heaven would not have been enough to get me in. It is only be the blood of Jesus that we can enter into Heaven, into spending eternity with Him. Does His blood cover you? Have you ever truly asked Him to wash away your sin, to make you white as snow, to cover you with His purifying and cleansing blood that flowed from the cross when He hung there, dying for the sin you carry?
Do you feel in your heart that, when you gave your life to Him, you understood exactly what you were doing? Did you understand everything that I just shared with you above about what He did for you and the problem with your sin? _____________________________________________
If you don’t, you’re in luck sweet friend, because just,like He called me at 17, He’s calling you now. He tells us to “believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved.” He tells us that ,”the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal Life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 6:23) and that all we have to do to receive this free gift is to call on Him. In other words, have a heart to heart with Him about how without Him, you have no hope. You’re desperate to be saved from your sin that leads to death. You need Him in your life to not only experience the TRUE life in this one, but to be secure in the REAL Life in the next. This earth is not our home and we cannot live like it is. We must know that we are only passing through and that Jesus is THE only way. “I am the way, the truth and the life. No one come to the Father except through me.” John 14:6
If you have already given your life to Christ, share about your experience here. If you have not, Oh I pray that you will do so right now and then share about it here as well.
Google the definition of relationship and then describe what you feel your relationship with the Lord looks like RIGHT NOW.
How so important it is to have a sweet relationship with the Lord to truly see growth in our lives and walks as daughters and wives. Once we step into a real relationship with HIM, we can begin to allow the Holy Spirit to weed out this ugly headed monster called sin that’s entangled in every area of our lives, including that within our marriages.
This week, we discussed a lot of different issues that our sin causes, one being a faulty and wrong mindset toward the way we think about our husbands and about their behaviors. Just because our husbands may choose to do wrong does not leave us exempt to do wrong as well. We are still called to do right, ladies, and that begins in our way of thinking. In our minds. This week, I want you to look over the right responses given in our books on page 24 and 25 and challenge yourself this week to ask the Lord to change your own sinful thoughts and responses towards your husband, and instead replace them with the godly thoughts given to us. Go through each godly response and on your note cards, write out the verses that are given for us as a guideline when choosing in those moments on how to respond in a godly way.
I love you all dearly and am praying that this week we choose to FLOURISH WIFEY FLOURISH in our walks with the Lord and in our marriages to our husbands. I am believing in you, in us and I know even more so is the Lord!
Flourish, Wifey, Flourish,